Agree it's hard.... but most providers will be happy to provide you with reference sites you can email and talk to about the service. OK, I guess no one is going to refer you to anyone unhappy

but you can get a sense of what they think is good or not so good about the service.
Or perhaps try things with a couple of accounts for a month?
(I'd probably do both
Keith
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