It isn't really much use attaching your post to a thread that's already solved and giving it a title of 'almost the same issue', most people will be likely to ignore it. I'll move this to a new thread.
Please update your
forum profile with the output of the following command (do not post the output in this thread):
If the mail doesn't go to it's intended recipient what actually happens to it? What errors do you see in the
log files when you try to send an email externally? Have you enabled 'use DNS lookup' in the Admin UI so mail gets delivered? Do you have a
Split DNS set-up on your system?