jholder: actually, the user that this annoys the most is me

and I'd rather not use the standard html client
dkarp: too bad 5.0 isn't out yet

actually the feature you mentioned would solve at least *most* of the problem. not automatically highlighting a message on login or when going to the next page of messages would eliminate the majority of these "accidentally" marked messages. What about after you delete a message, etc.? Does the one below it get automatically highlighted (and therefore marked as read)?