thought wrong....
everything is now deferred,
Code:
Oct 3 08:39:21 mail postfix/cleanup[15811]: 2F23B125003D: message-id=<AKEJLOOOPEKKJMIBDKJGIEAEAPAB.jeff@example.com>
Oct 3 08:39:23 mail postfix/qmgr[4364]: 2F23B125003D: from=<jeff@example.com>, size=180546, nrcpt=1 (queue active)
Oct 3 08:39:23 mail postfix/smtpd[15808]: disconnect from unknown[192.168.71.109]
Oct 3 08:39:53 mail postfix/smtp[15225]: connect to remote.com[64.29.145.9]: Connection timed out (port 25)
Oct 3 08:39:53 mail postfix/smtp[15225]: 2F23B125003D: to=<jvella@remote.com>, relay=none, delay=32, status=deferred (connect to remote.com[64.29.145.9]: Connection timed out)